Mediation is a process where a trained mediator helps you and your spouse reach an agreement on issues in your divorce case. The mediator can help you come up with a settlement that’s fair to both of you and puts your children’s needs first. A good mediator can also make the process much less stressful than going to court. However, you need to know how to find the best mediator for your situation.
Start by searching for “mediators near me” online. Many mediators list their qualifications and contact information on their websites. Read over the information carefully. For example, you should see how long the mediator has been practicing. It’s also important to consider whether the mediator focuses on divorce mediation or has a primary focus on other types of family disputes or civil cases.
Non-attorney mediators often have professional backgrounds that can help with the legal and emotional aspects of a divorce. For example, many therapists become mediators because they understand how difficult it is to talk to your spouse and work through conflict. Teachers and financial professionals also have a lot of experience working with families who are in conflict.
The mediators listed on our site are licensed by the Office of Dispute Resolution (ODR). You can search for mediators by name or by county. You can also choose the type of dispute you have, and filter by specialties like domestic violence or parenting. You can also select options like whether you want a male or female mediator, and you can choose to view only mediators who are available on a certain day of the week.
You can also see what types of services the mediator offers, including the cost. Some mediators offer co-mediation or a sliding fee scale based on income. Some mediators provide services only in person, while others provide virtual services.
Before you go to your mediation, it’s a good idea to get all of the issues straightened out in your mind. Write down the points that you’re having problems with and what your goals are for the mediation. Make sure you’re clear on your priorities and that you understand the other party’s goals as well.
Remember, your goal should be to reach an agreement that you can both sign on to. If you’re unable to agree on one or more issues, the mediator may declare an impasse and adjourn the mediation session for the day. If you’re unable to agree, you will have to go back to court and have a judge or jury decide your case for you. Choosing the right mediator can make all the difference in your outcome. Good luck!